Fear is a funny old thing – everyone feels it, and while it can be a powerful motivator or alert us to danger, it can also inhibit our lives. Fear of something specific can be a HUGE block in your mind, something you can’t see a way past, but if you can confront it, somehow you manage to overcome it, or at least live with it.
There’s been a bit of fear around recently. My son has an Anxiety Disorder as a result of the earthquakes here in Christchurch. But it’s morphed into him being fearful of whole load of things – big buildings, loud noises, his little brother jiggling on the sofa, wind, heavy rain, the dark, being apart from me, earthquakes…..you get the picture. We went on a course last year specifically designed for kids affected by the earthquakes, and it helped a lot. But, we’ve had a couple of aftershocks recently which have set him back and he’s had panic attacks again. Confronting this fear is tricky. Learning to deal with it helps hugely. I defer to the experts on this one and we’re heading back for help.
A good friend of mine developed a fear of flying. She’s a very sensible woman, has travelled the world, but a few years ago a variety of factors combined to trigger this fear of flying. And as she put it to me “If you won a trip for two to New York to see Pink in concert, I’d have to decline”. So off she went to a week long night course at the airport run by a psychologist, culminating in a domestic flight. She’s conquered it – unpacking the fear, learning techniques for relaxation and putting them into practice worked. So, if by chance I win a trip for two to New York to see Pink in concert – she’s my plus one!
For me it’s dentists. Never liked the school dental nurse, nor my orthodontist, and managed to steer clear of them with no pain. But after six years it’s all coming back to haunt me. This week we had to come home from holiday as I was in agony with dental pain. There was no choice, my fear had to be faced. With my two sons in the waiting room I was forced to put on a brave face. As it turned out a root canal needed to be done and it cost a bomb! But, as the injections (six in the end) numbed my pain I realised that they weren’t any worse than the iron or B12 injections I’ve had regularly at the GP. The Dentist, who was incredibly kind and gentle, tells me it’s all about the head. Apparently very few people are happy with their head being interfered with. No problem with other parts of their bodies, but not their heads.
If you can, confronting your fear will enable you to overcome it, sometimes it’s just grabbing the bull by the horns (or a LOT of pain) and other times seeking help from professionals is just the ticket.